Another reason for me to write in here; it's a safe space where after I'm dead and gone, someone will be able to read this and share it with the world.
I recently posted a FB rant about how I've been attacked for trying to be sympathetic and helpful, only to have those efforts seen as nosey and humiliating. Indeed, I admit that I approached these people in a public forum when I should have privately approached them to help. My efforts were totally selfless, and altruistic, because I believe in helping people. I'm not a superhero, but I want to be able to help people the best I can with my best attributes: Listening and pragmatic, logical common sense.
The first subject is someone who I will refer to as Jethrine; She is a large woman; not fat per se, but unwieldly, thick, and very clumsy. In the time I've known her, she's fallen and broken a bone or two, and I've only known her for 3 years or so. She is bi-racial, and she blames a lot of her problems on that fact. She feels that she is frequently discriminated against, from work, theatre, and most importantly, her failed relationships with me. She has told me in confidence that when she has done online dating, the guys "ghost" her once she sends her picture to them. She is built like a hausfrau, and acts like it too. When she bought a gift for a friend of mine and I, she made sure to tell us that she got it on sale.
Again, I'm not saying these things to be insulting of her, but this is the way she conducts herself. After a few drinks, she told me about a guy she met from New York at an anime festival in Boston, to where after the convention she went to a car to give him head. Again, no filter since she had been drinking. She went on about how this was her new boyfriend. When I asked her about him a few months later, she said that he "ghosted" her, but she didn't like him anyway. She said that he was "too hairy", and she did not like him on top of her so they had to shift to a doggie style position. Again, it seems that she rushed him into bed because she was lonely, only to feel worse after the fact. When I mentioned in open post that she should not air out her romantic laundry on Facebook, (I should have taken it to private message, my error) I was chastised by several people to not tell her what to do.
The second subject is Dove. Dove is a soft spoken, gentle soul who loves comic books, drawing, theatre, sci-fi movies and video games. Dove was going to be co-directing a play with a good friend of mine, who I in fact co-directed a play with in 2018. In the promotional art for the upcoming play, this person put their name ahead of the other director, and since this was Dove's first time as a director, by courtesy (in my opinion) he should have deflected to putting the "tutor" director's name in the first position and his, as an intern in addition. The spur in my boot is that Dove's wife also co-directed with the senior director, took primary credit for direction, did absolutely NOTHING to contribute to the play and THEN got all the kudos for the play once the senior director did the set building, painting, marketing, and gave the bulk of direction and notes to the cast and crew. This junior director's wife took all the kudos and congratulations for doing NOTHING. So, in open post (Again, I should have taken it to private message, my fault) I suggested that it would be the polite and proper thing to do to give the senior director top billing. Again, I was chastised by his friends for being a critic and I was even called out for "virtue signalling". Well, I had to look up that particular psychobabble term and found out that it means I tell people what to do because I find them disgusting. Well, I feel no way of the sort towards these people and I was merely trying to offer some advice to help make their lives a little easier.
So, lesson learned? The road to Hell is paved with good intentions, and no good deed goes unpunished.
